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Don’t just tell us the horror stories

I realize there are downsides to a lot of things. There are hard parts to life, to school, to marriage, and especially (I can imagine) to motherhood. But I assume along with those hardships come some joy, some fulfillment, some reason you started in the first place. Let’s share those parts too.

If I only shared the struggles of marriage on this blog, not only would there be far less to read, but I bet I could convince you that marriage is exhausting and frustrating. And, if I failed to say anything else about it, I might leave you thinking thats what I believe marriage is.

Mothers, I don’t get it (yet). I don’t understand what its like to give birth, to take care of a helpless baby, or to get no more than three consecutive hours of sleep for months. But it must be more than losing hair, painful breasts, and sleepless lights or you wouldn’t keep doing it (read: having more children). In the spirit of preparedness and being authentic, I understand why we share the horror stories with each other, but sometimes, it makes us think, even if for a moment, that is all there is to it. It makes me wonder what we got ourselves into…and how in the world I could have wanted something like this so badly for so long.

So share the sweet moments with us moms-to-be too (whether we’re pregnant, married, or not). I’m glad I know a little more about what to expect, but these days I am quite grateful for the mothers who remind me why I got into this business of motherhood. I am thankful for their excitement, for their stories, and for their encouragement.

And wherever you are in life, share the good too. Share the parts that keep you going. Maybe you’ll inspire someone else, but at the very least, it’ll help you feel good about where you’re at.


^on another note – these fall leaves are always encouraging šŸ˜‰

For all you pregnant ladies out there – this was worth a mention:  a few pieces from Pink Blush Maternity arrived and I haven’t wanted to take them off. For anyone who will ever be pregnant during fall/winter months … these fleece lined maternity leggings are fantastic (I’m wearing them right now) – and printed tunics that you can wear as your bump grows make getting dressed a lot more enjoyable. And here I was thinking maternity clothes were going to be frumpy.

leggings: c/o Pink Blush Maternity (on sale)
tunic: c/o Pink Blush Maternity
trench: c/o Oasap
shoes: Saks Fifth Avenue
**pictures snapped at 21 weeks

11 Comments

  1. I'm glad you mentioned that all these things in life take work and the need to find worth in it. I don't plan on being a mother for another good three years but your outfit is adorable and you look amazing!

    1. thanks – I'm always grateful when people share the joyful moments along with the struggles…especially when its all coming up so soon for me!

  2. You are totally glowing and looking beautiful!

    Sure, the sleepless nights and all that jazz are no fun.. but the moment your baby looks at you with those sweet eyes, or gives you a little smile and snuggles in close to you… you immediately forget about all that and all you can think about is how you can possibly love someone so much. It's all worth it! šŸ™‚

    1. oh thank you yi-chia! and I am so so excited šŸ™‚ i love seeing your posts with your new little one! (and just like her mama, she's always wearing the cutest little clothes šŸ™‚

  3. i love your holistic view on the matter, talking about the good and the bad. i think more people should do the same thing

  4. This was JUST what I needed to read today! Seriously. I was scrolling through FB yesterday and SO many women were complaining about the bad parts of motherhood (which I know there are) and it induced a mild panic attack within me. I started worrying that motherhood was going to be too hard for me and that I simply wouldn't like it (which deep down I know isn't true). I completely agree that mothers should share more of the good moments, especially when you're expecting. I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels like this! Also you're the cutest pregnant lady ever.

    1. I feel ya, Annie. And with all the maternity dressed you've been buying (but for real, why don't we live closer so I can borrow them?) I'm just waiting for an announcement šŸ˜› But whenever you do get pregnant, I promise I'll share lots and lots of wonderful moments (along with a horror story or two šŸ™‚

  5. Yes, being a mother is hard but I agree, it's all how you look at it. I love being a mom and waking up everyday to my sweet boy makes everything else seem not so bad šŸ™‚

  6. I love that you shared this! I feel like I block so many feeds on FB these days because of the negativity about motherhood! Yes it's hard, but really, why only talk about that?

  7. It can be hard, no lie. My baby boy had trouble latching and has been up constantly at night. But we are a rhythm now and I love how he curls up next to me after he is done eating. I love his little faces he makes. I love how I feel him calm down when I hold him. It's been hard but it's been totally worth it.

  8. The colors in these photos are sooo beautiful! What a nice fall day.

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