“The world tries to tell you that confidence comes from comparison, by having more money, more things, more talents, or more intelligence than someone else. This is counterfeit confidence. Real confidence comes from understanding innately who you are.”
So often I define myself and my worth from how good I am at things …and usually I measure that goodness in comparison to others. To be good at something really means to be better at it than a lot of people. It is seldom enough to be better than I was yesterday, I need to be better than someone else is today. When I’m not, I let it effect how I feel about myself and this needs to stop.
Now I’m not saying its bad to work to be great at something, or to strive to be an expert in your field, but when you let that comparison effect your confidence or your worth as an individual, we have a problem.
As I listened to those words (from the pulpit a week or two ago) I glimpsed what confidence that truly stems from a knowledge of who you are, as a child of the loving God would be like. And in that vision it didn’t matter where I went to grad school, or how well I can play (or can’t play now) the piano. My confidence or lack thereof didn’t come from my GPA, my last name, or my jean size. This doesn’t mean I don’t work for good grades, practice the piano, or try to stay fit – it just means that my happiness, my worth, and my confidence don’t come from comparing myself in these things to others.
What matters is that I am working at being the best version of me, and that along the way I remember where I came from, why I’m here, and where I’m going.
I love this.
And I need to work on it.