As I laid in bed listening to the sounds of a sleeping baby last night/this morning (we have a loud sleeper on our hands..plenty of “blah blah blah”s in his sleep at this point), I found myself thinking quite a bit about love in this thing called marriage. I’ve been doing it for a few years now and my goodness I’ve learned a lot.
In any relationship, both people have needs. Ben and I could spend all our time meeting our own needs and we would both be taken care of. But, how much more wonderful would it be if we both spent our time meeting each others needs? Either way, all our needs are met, but in the second scenario, we’ve spent our time serving each other and I’ve learned you really love the people you serve (and it is easy to love people who serve you).
Its a hard thing to do…and it takes quite a bit of trust. Some days it means I don’t get to do what I want to do and others it means Ben skips a trip to the gym, but overall, we’re kinder when we spend our time doing things for each other. And kindness, for me, in marriage is huge. We’re happier when we’re kinder, we’re more productive when we’re kinder, all things are better when we’re just a little kinder.
Late at night, a thousand miles away from my husband, I was feeling particularly grateful for the kindness in our marriage, for the service, and that it just all keeps getting better as the years go on.
In other news, coats are the only thing to get excited about in this frigid weather and this pastel one is a new favorite. I love the zipper detailing and the ice blue color. I hope its warmer wherever you are!