When I am tired, I get grumpy. When I’m grumpy I’m not so nice. Marriage is happier when we both get enough sleep.
You don’t have to make full meals 7 nights a week to be a good wife (for some reason pre-wedding I thought you did).
Whenever a husband is grumpy, just send him on a run. Exercise makes everything better.
For me, its chocolate, flowers, or exercise (but usually I don’t like the latter till its over).
Listening more and talking less is usually better, but finding a way to say what you’re thinking, without being offensive (think opposite of the word defensive here) is key. I like the model my mom taught me since I was 3 “I feel ___ about ____ because____.”
Good friends enhance life just the way you did when you were single. Find them, make them, keep them.
Marriage isn’t so much about doing things differently, but thinking differently. Its a mindset. Its a set of priorities. Agree on priorities with your spouse and keep them.
Making an effort to be interested in their interests makes a huge difference. (Ben can carry on a fabulous conversation about blogging and while my skate lingo is lacking, I’m getting better).
Its so important to have goals.
Here are some of ours for the next year:
Go to the temple more often.
Eat more vegetables.
Get better at climbing (individual goals we’re working on together).
Increase couple scripture study.