Show Me, Don’t Tell Me

Ben spent the first half of the weekend camping and biking in St. George and I had my first night alone in the apartment since we’ve been married (I’ve had plenty of nights without him – it’s just always been me traveling, not him). It gave me plenty of time to think about things
While I think words of affirmation are important, verbal apologies are a good thing, and you can never have to many “i love you”s, none of those mean anything if the behavior doesn’t reflect them. They mean you recognize the problem, or you recognize the good in the person, but don’t care enough to work at it, to fix it, or to show it. 
I”m taking these five words to live by for the next little bit. Do what you mean, and mean what you say, because in the end it matters far more what you did for another person than whatever words you said in passing. 
What do you think? 
Do words mean anything on their own without action?

Oh and Sarahjane is talking about one of my favorite things on her blog today (reminds me of this post) – something that inspires me everyday. Check it out here

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  1. I completely agree. Actions must match what you are saying, other wise the words have no meaning. I see this on a daily basis with my job. Too many parents saying that they help their child when in reality they don't. Too many people saying they want to help and do what's best for the team and then they don't. It's frustrating!

  2. I've spent plenty of nights without my husband–but like you, it's typically me traveling away from home, so it really is weird when it's the other way around! My primary love language is words of affirmation, so a lot of times I feel like saying "Don't only show me! Say it! Write it down!" šŸ˜› But at the same time, I agree that words that contradict one's actions are simply lies, and not worth much at all!

  3. Words are nice and lovely, and as you say, importantly affirming. But what would they be affirming without actions to back them up? This is a great reminder today… especially starting a new week.

  4. Words are important but really without the actions they are kind of meaningless!

  5. Very true! I think people should take the time to stop and notice little actions/signs of love, rather than just waiting for the words.

  6. I totally agree with you on this! Thanks for the reminder. Shauna {}

  7. I love you lady. And I am impressed that you are able to stay in your apartment alone. i have never done that throughout our whole marriage. I am too scared… haha I think I would sleep over somewhere with someone šŸ™‚

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