My Twitter Disaster: The Time I Read Horrible Things About Myself

Happy Friday! Today is my last day of work for the summer and then school starts on Monday! Today I have a rather funny story for you. If you didn’t know, I’m from New Hampshire, and from a pretty politically active family. I spend most of my time at BYU studying political science and my evenings watching CNN. I try to read the New York Times on the daily and compete on BYU’s Model United Nations team. Granted, I am no expert on all things politics but I’d like to consider myself informed? I find it interesting to learn about both sides of the issues but I will definitely be voting Republican in the fall. Okay so on to the funny story.
On Tuesday my family got to see Romney and Ryan speak together which is always fun, but not that unusual for New Hampshire. Those politicians spoil us; The first time I saw President Obama he was strolling through a park talking to my mom. And so, being the new tweeter that I am, I hopped on twitter and posted something along the lines of:
“Family hung out with Romney and Ryan today. Why do I no longer live in NH? #jealous #romneyryan2012” 
And then I made a mistake. In writing that tweet I decided to tag Romney and Ryan. Miss naive here thought you could only tag people you are following, and so I tagged the first Romney account and the first Ryan account that came up – didn’t give it a second glance, and headed off to work. 
Six hours later I got back on twitter. Turns out I’d tagged a parody account for Paul Ryan, who turns out to be a super liberal comedian. Hilarious right? He’d retweeted me to his 52,000 followers! By that time my tweet had been retweeted over 30 times and favorite over 20. Lots of people had thanked me for the comedic relief and were trying to figure out if I was serious or kidding. 
And then the nasty tweets started pouring in. Cue lots of vulgarity, lots of derogatory terms, a little political bashing but mostly personality bashing, some crude body comments,  blog hating, and personal attacks. I read the first 20 or so that came in and decided to stay off twitter for a few days. I’ve lead a pretty… charmed life? And by that I mean the worst thing anyone has ever said to me is that I was letting my life get too unbalanced when I started dating my first BF at 17. 
Honesty its not that big of a deal. These people don’t know me. All they know is I support Romney for president and am not so good at rereading my tweets. (side note, I know it was a bunch of liberal democrats tearing me apart but I don’t doubt there would be a similar group on the other side willing to tear a liberal slip up). 
I am grateful for it though. Because all it did was force me to remember where my self worth comes from. I am not a happy and confident person because people tweet nice things to me, or because people leave complimentary blog comments, or because I have a lot of friends (all things I love). My self esteem comes from knowing that I am a child of Him, with infinite worth and divine potential. I choose how I feel about myself and will not let those feelings be dictated by people who have nothing better to do than trash typos of young girls thousands of miles away from them. What they say is nothing that a few verses of scripture, a short prayer, and a kind reminder from my other half can’t fix.
So the result was a huge increase in blog views, a few more twitter followers, and a renewed sense of who I am and why I’m here. 
I am happiest when I remember that, when I don’t let myself get caught up in the pettiness of others and let the confidence and peace come from within. 
How do you deal with nasty people?
How do you feel most confident?
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19 Comments

  1. Wow! What a story! I'm so sorry to hear that people were being nasty over a silly slip-up. Unfortunately, some people will jump at a chance to be nasty over different political views, but it sounds like you are dealing with it quite well. What's done is done, let's all have a good laugh, and move on! Happy Friday, lil' lady!

    xoxo,Courtney @ littlemissmba.blogspot.com

  2. Oh my gosh! You seem to have handled it so well! I would have been mortified/hated everyone and everything. Ha.

  3. This is a great and interesting story. Excellent post.

  4. WOW. That IS quite a story.

    I also have to say that I do think supporters from all sides of politics (because there are more than two) can be just as nasty as the others. I've seen it, unfortunately.

    While our political views may not match (because I generally find that both Dems and Repubs are a wash… which is why I am a registered independent), I think your outlook on the situation is key. Knowing who you are should absolutely come from within instead of defined by external "noise". I commend you for that!

  5. Oh my gosh. I would have cried…but you seriously handled it like a champ!

  6. I still can't believe this happened to you. I told my husband and he couldn't believe it either! You are handling it so well. I wish I could give you a big hug!

  7. Oh Elisabeth, that's super lame! I really appreciate your positive attitude. I would have been upset for weeks; I'm proud of you!

  8. ooooh goodness. I am sorry that this happened to you. (it does go to show that both sides of the political aisle can be mean! neither side has a monopoly on the high ground. yargh.) but you should be proud of rising above the squabble! people who are interested in engaging with you in this way aren't worth bothering with!

  9. Oy, that kind of Twitter stuff makes me mental. I may disagree with you politically, but what is to be gained from being mean? I, like you, love having discussions about this stuff, but tearing someone down or making broad generalizations "all republicans are like this!" or "all liberals think that!" is useless!

    You handled it SO well. You should be proud.

  10. I have dealt with some nastiness in my blogging days, and the first thing I do is call to mind something I once heard: "Anger comes from hurt, sadness, and fear." They aren't angry with me- there is something inside them that is causing them to lash out. Something has happened in THEIR life that makes them angry and I just happen to be the way they are directing that anger.

    So sorry that happened to you! People can be so mean over absolutely nothing!

  11. WOW what a story! haha What a day you must have had! I am sorry some of what they said got you down. I actually had a recent situation happen like this…. obviously not at this scale. I thought I made a couple friends, and then one of them tweeted a passive aggressive tweet to me. When I confronted them about it, they basically took the opportunity to tell me the things I need to change about myself, and "put me in my place" I was shocked! But to make it worse, instead of them leaving it alone… I later found them tweeting mean things about me. Really petty mean things… Sometimes people feel like they can say whatever they want to people when they are hiding behind a computer screen, things they would never say to your face. It is just sad honestly. We don't all have to get along, or agree… but being kind… that is something everyone should be.

  12. Let me at em! I love a good political debate! (though I doubt I'd get that from people who resort to name calling over sucha mild statement)

  13. This is insane! It's like highschool on twitter….goodness! Stopped by from the hop and after reading this I'm so following you! Love me some good ol' Republican gals! Following you from the Aloha Blog Hop! Happy Friday to you doll!

  14. Your handling of the situation is definitely to your credit. I know I would never have been as easy going about it as you are! Good on ya!

  15. Augh–that drives me nuts. Sorry that happened to you…but amazing that you got to hang with Mitt and Paul :)!

  16. You are one very strong young lady. It encourages me that you found strength in Him. It also encourages me that you will be voting Republican and you are not afraid to say so. (I'm waiting until after the RNC to put my Romney sign in the yard. I live way too close to Tampa!)
    Fran

  17. Whoooa, ok, so we do get pretty spoiled in NH but your mom got to walk through a park with Obama and personally speak with him? How politically active *is* your family?? So jeals!

    Also, those girls are idiots and I'm embarrassed that they are representing the left of center. I am a card carrying liberal and Ryan instills cold-blooded fear in the depths of my uterus… but I still find your blog delightful and you are an inspiring and beautiful human being. If you can't be friends across party lines, it reflects poorly on yourself and those who share your views. As a Democrat, I apologize on behalf of all young women who made disparaging comments about you today, especially those comments entirely unrelated to your political beliefs.

  18. OMg!! That is crazy!! I can't that happened. I'm so sorry, but glad you were able to learn something about yourself. I am new to twitter as well and do the basic tweets…none of that tagging or hashtags unless i know for sure it's the right tags haha

  19. whoa! that is SO crazy! but i think you said it best when you said it made you go back to asking yourself where does your self-worth lie…and it def doesn't lie with those people! glad you were able to find something positive in the mix of that mess, girl! 🙂

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