(just found this in my archives from spring that somehow never got published)
Some of my friends are cooler than others. They just are.
Lets be real, between school, church, blogging, homework, real work (doing model UN counts as work? perfect, I’ll take money for that), there isn’t nearly as much time as I would like for friends. Generally, I like people. People are so interesting and complex that there is always something to like (the trick is to spend more time looking for things you like than things you don’t). The problem is with so many people I already like, and so many people waiting to be liked, how does one decide? Do I spend time with girl A who I know is awesome? Or girl B who might turn out to be even more awesome for me than girl A? Or girl C who could really use a friend right now? Or girl D who I don’t know but might need a friend more than girl C, and could turn out to be way cooler than girl A, but then again we may not get along at all.
You have to choose. A lot of time I don’t choose so I end up spending all my time with Carly because by default, making no plans obviously means ending up on our neighbors couches (their apartment is infinitely cleaner than ours, and they always feed me).
But when I have to choose, this is my criteria:
1. Do I laugh with them?
2. Do they inspire me to be a better person?
3. Do they like hanging out with me?
4. Do I have a low filter when I talk to them?
5. Do they have connections to my family?
6. Do they “get” me?
7. Do they ask questions? Do they listen well?
Bonus Questions (read: don’t’ take them too seriously)
8. Do they have closets I can borrow from?
9. Do they have well connected relatives?
10. Do they have my same food preferences?
11. Do they have exceptional cooking skills? Or baking skills? Or a well stocked freezer?
On a more recent note – I am so grateful for new friends in Cincinnati. This girl saved me from my first lonely days in the apartment and if my kids come out as cute as her’s, I’ll probably have twelve. It’s also been a great chance to become better friends with Ben. It sounds silly, but back in Utah we didn’t do very many things just the two of us and this next chapter has been a great time to do just that. I’m missing my best friend while I’m here in Texas; I have lots of fun without him, but everything is better with him 🙂