As we’ve been working through this whole ‘buying a house’ process and the physical moving of all of our stuff (HOW did we accumulate so much stuff??), I’ve been constantly reminded how grateful I am for the guy I get to do it all with. We really do make a great team. He steps up when I’m slacking and I’m there to catch him when he falls. Marriage has taught me a lot about that give and take…and the result has been far more fulfilling and joyous than I expected.
I have quite a few friends getting married in the next few months, all under pretty different circumstances. The result has been lots of conversations about marriage over the phone about what makes a marriage work. I came across this article on facebook last week entitled “Real Love is a Choice” (because there has been very little time for facebook this week) and I loved it. If you don’t have time to read the whole thing, here’s a part that really resonated with me:
No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance.
No one stays in love by chance, it is by work.
And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice.
Yes, I do believe I got incredibly lucky in the husband department (far luckier than I realized at the young age of twenty when I said yes to that four word question)…but I won’t be fooled into thinking our marriage works because of luck. Our marriage works because of work. Sometimes that work is in the form of forgiving or serving…and sometimes its in the fun form of putting away the computer for the night and making sure we laugh.
And so I’m off to do quite a bit more work (tonight we’ve scheduled the laughing variety to make up for the other kinds we’ve been doing all week). Here are just a few pictures from Sunday (or the Sunday before that) because we matched: