Disclaimer: I love Ben. I am married to him. Its the best choice I’ve made in life so far.
Some couples make sense. You know, the two people who like all the same things, were best friends for a long time, and fell in love and ended up married? I get that I guess (but why were they friends so long without being in love and then fell in love? And why didn’t they want to spend the rest of their life together when they were best friends?)
But this whole “opposites attract” thing. Lets talk about it.
Ben and I were really different. We’re still pretty different. A lot of the time we choose between doing something he wants to do or something I want to do, which are usually two very different things. How in the world did we end up married? (And so incredibly happy?) Is the goal just to find someone who can make you laugh and have fun, regardless of what your interests are? Well, that and someone you’re attracted to. So you want someone who makes you laugh that you’re attracted to and maybe who you get along with? But then there are those couples who are “so completely in love” who fight all the time? Clearly, love doesn’t make sense.
The longer I’m married and the more couples that I meet, I realize how different each relationship is. Everyone loves differently – but we’re all “in love,” right? How can something that is so different be so universal?
I don’t know. Random thoughts of Elisabeth one Wednesday morning. But I thought I’d share.
Conclusion: Ben and I are really different. We like really different things. Sometimes I wonder how we ended up together, but every day I am so grateful that we did.