CHUNKY CARDIGANS + STRIPES OUTFIT
Things I’m struggling with:
- Feeding Adelaide: She has an iron will, that one. She also seems to be really averse to anything that is new, especially new textures. For example, I made a new smoothie tonight with blueberries instead of spinach and she drank it just fine. But last night she asked for a bite of Ben’s cereal and spit out the frosted rice krispies (they’re SO good!) almost immediately. So it isn’t just a healthy / unhealthy thing. She’ll eat plain bread but won’t eat a homemade chocolate chip muffin. She’ll eat the chocolate chips though. Anyway, I’ve been reading articles and trying to practice my three big takeaways; don’t make it a big deal, give healthy options, and focus on variety. It’s hard not to just put something in her mouth that I’m almost certain she’ll like (French toast! or muffins we all made together! or chocolate cake at a birthday!) – but I’m really trying to keep eating low key – not praising her for eating and not appearing to stress about her not eating. I have also, in honor of not making it a big deal, let her have a snack of plain bread and milk before she goes to bed at night. For a few weeks there she was eating so little during the day she was waking up multiple times a night asking for milk because she was hungry… and it’s better for all of us if I have slept at least five hours in a row.
- Finding quality time with both kids: Today was really good for this one. I spent twenty minutes doing puzzles and drawing with Adelaide while Lincoln played with cars and at some point I was able to spend some time with Lincoln building ramps. It’s hard though, when they are on the sleep schedule (which is wonderful for everything else), to get in a few minutes of one-on-one time with each child. I know those moments, even if they’re short, make a big difference in how I feel as a mom and how my kids feel as part of our family so I’m trying to make them a priority.
Things I’m loving:
- Their little bond: Earlier this week I asked Lincoln what made him happy and his third response was, “When Adelaide helps me not feel sad, THAT makes me feel happy, mama!” I think he was referring to the gym child drop-off that morning when he’d had a bit of a hard time and I asked Adelaide if she would help him and play with him.
- My commitment to no raised voices: Each New Years Eve my family lights a fire and we write down a bad habit / behavior on a slip of paper and toss it into the fire. This year, mine was getting frustrated with my kids. I find the quickest way to get my kids to comply is to sound frustrated ..and that is frustrating 🙂 This year I’m going soft instead of going loud and each time I get frustrated I soften my voice (often while sounding stern) ..with the ultimate goal of being firm but not having my kids be able to tell that I’m actually frustrated. This tiny habit has made me feel way more in control + calm as a mom.
- Dressing Adelaide: Don’t get me wrong, I love dressing little boys. And I was underwhelmed with dressing little girls at first, but Adelaide’s LOVE of shoes and new clothes makes it so much fun! This girl could spend a solid half hour trying on shoes (mine, Ben’s, Lincoln’s, house guests’, whoever’s). She’ll never come for a diaper change but she loves when I say “let’s go get dressed” and will run right over to pick out a pair of shoes (she has strong opinions already!).
I hope you know I share these anecdotes not to complain, but to document and to encourage. I want you to know you’re not the only one. I want to give you a glimpse into our daily ups and downs. I am grateful everyday that I get to be their mom. I’d take the midnight wakings every night ’till they leave the house if that was required (thank GOODNESS it isn’t). Being their mom is the greatest (and most trying) privilege of my life.
And on a very unrelated note, this is one of THE coziest chunky cardigans. It is thick and heavy and a steal for the current price. The cream color I’m wearing is still stocked in all sizes and it a classic piece you’ll wear this winter and the next and the next.
slides: Nine West
striped tee: actually Seraphine maternity that I never put away with my maternity/nursing clothes – long since sold out
plaid coat: GAP (this was an awesome black Friday steal for $20! they have it in a couple of sizes left and with the extra 20% off it’s UNDER $20)
duck boots: Sperry (we LOVE these little duck boots – they’re easy for me to put on and her most requested shoe for the last few weeks – they stay on, are easy to walk in, go with almost everything, and work for Boston winter slush).