Yes, I would love to be the best at everything (or at least a lot better at everything).
Yes, I have lots of things I want to learn and change.
But, would I want to be anyone else just because they are better, more talented, or more successful at a certain thing I’m still working on? Absolutely not.
We’re each a unique combination of strengths and weaknesses. Some people have spent more time cultivating certain skills and some might just be more gifted at it, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be great at it. This month I listened to Joy talk about being a “goal getter” and let me tell you, it was motivating. If you really want something to happen, and I mean really want it, you need to stop waiting around for it and GO GET IT.
And while you’re going after it, remember to love yourself. It doesn’t mean you have to love the choices you’ve made, but love the ones you will make, and the person you’ll become. Its not really about who you are, its about who you’re choosing to become. Make sure you like that person.
One thing I love about Ben is that he didn’t marry me just for the person I was at 20. We don’t buy any of the “thats just who I am” business. We expect each other to change. We expect each other to grow. And we expect to help each other along the way. Ben is great, and I love him as he is right now, but I also married him for the man he is becoming. Having someone who encourages me to be the version of myself I’m working toward instead of taking me only as who I am right now is motivating.
One of my all time favorite quotes is:
If you treat people as if they were who they ought to be and you help them become what they are capable of being.
Have a wonderful Monday, and remember, everyone is fighting a hard battle.